Everyone is Approachable

Words kill, words give life; they're either fruits or poison, you choose.

You cannot communicate with a madman without making him believe he's not mad.

People often tag some individuals as "unapproachable". Well, I believe no one is unapproachable or hard to communicate with—everyone is approachable.

Most of us lack the communication skills. We tend to say “it is not you, it is me” but we use that as an irony. But in this context, that phrase should be taken literally—even though we might mean it ironically. It is no wonder we often find it hard to communicate with certain individuals. You should have in mind that, everyone has what interest them, and how you approach such a person matters too.

In thier book "Relationship; a mess worth making", Paul David Tripp & Timothy S. Lane wrote;

The words just don't seem to carry enough freight, they seem too ordinary. Perhaps this is because we think communication is ordinary.

Often, we chose to say the right thing in the wrong way or at the wrong time. But the communication process, as much as the content of the words needs to benefit the person.

Now, ask yourself these questions;

i) How do I approach this person in such a way that I'll gain their attention and respect?

ii) When should I approach this person? (Is he/she in the perfect mood for my conversation?) and finally,

iii) Where should I approach?

After asking these question, make sure you think them through, thoroughly.

Some people may seem unapproachable because you always see them keeping a straight face, but you just have to decipher if they're always in a bad mood or if that's their nature.

A father to a friend of mine smiles once in a 'blue moon', he always looks serious and aggressive. Sometimes his savage replies when communicating with us can be tagged 'out of this world'. But people around him, people who know him well, know that he's not unapproachable it's just his nature.

On the other hand, some people keep straight faces when in public to avoid "raini" or because they're not used to the people around. Once they're around people they're used to, it's a different face that appears, it is their nature.

I believe people being approachable or not depends on HOW, WHERE AND WHEN you approach or try to communicate with them. Learn communication skills and you can approach the unapproachable and communicate with anyone.

Dear reader, I leave you with this qoute by Eugene Peterson "Words kill, words give life; they're either fruits or poison, you choose".

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